Overcoming the Fear of Flying in Light Aircraft: A Guide for the Concerned Spouse
First and foremost, it is important that the pilot acknowledge his passengers feelings and concerns about flying, especially in light aircraft. Fear is a natural human emotion, and it’s not uncommon for individuals to have apprehensions about taking to the skies in smaller planes.
When I first started flying with my husband I was extremely nervous. Although we had flown a lot, it had always been in much larger aircraft. It was the first time I had flown in a light plane. Also going through my head were the thoughts that:
- My husband built this plane in our shed, in the backyard.
- He had only recently obtained his license to fly.
- The huge ‘EXPERIMENTAL’ sign just behind the seats was not reassuring at all.
BUT: My husband is a LAME with over 40 years of experience. He was super meticulous with every part of the plane he built. He knew what he was doing!
Research now shows that flying is an incredibly safe form of travel – you are more at risk while driving to the airport or eating airplane food!
We hope the insights provided here can help you navigate and potentially overcome these fears.
The fear of flying can be overcome
Understanding the Fear:
The fear of flying, also known as “aviophobia” or “aerophobia” can stem from various sources:
- Fear of heights (acrophobia)
- Fear of being in an enclosed space (claustrophobia)
- A previous traumatic flying experience
- Fear of the unknown or lack of control
- Fear of your loved ones being left behind if you should lose your life in an accident
Recognizing the root of your fear is the first step in addressing it.
Knowledge is Power:
Many fears arise from a lack of understanding. The more you know about light aircraft and the principles of flight, the more rational and less intimidating the experience can become.
- Safety Record: Light aircraft, contrary to some perceptions, have a strong safety record. Most recreational pilots are meticulous about maintenance, checks, and following safety protocols.
- Principles of Flight: Understanding how a plane stays airborne, the function of its various parts, and the built-in safety measures can alleviate concerns.
- Training Rigor: Your spouse, as a recreational pilot, underwent rigorous training and testing to acquire his/her license. Trust in the training and the skill set he/she has acquired.
Gradual Exposure:
Overcoming a fear often involves facing it in a controlled, gradual manner.
- Visit the Airport: Spend time at the airport without the intention to fly. Watch planes take off and land, familiarize yourself with the environment, and talk to other pilots and passengers.
- Aircraft Familiarization: Get to know the aircraft. Sit in it without the engine on. Familiarize yourself with the cockpit, controls, and the feeling of being inside.
- Short Flights: Consider taking very short flights initially, gradually increasing the duration as your comfort level grows. This is really important. Gradually extend the flight times as you feel more comfortable with flying. I found that taking photos while we were flying was a huge help in calming my nerves.
Professional Assistance:
There are professionals trained to assist with overcoming phobias:
- Therapy: Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can be beneficial in addressing specific fears. A therapist can provide coping strategies and tools to manage anxiety.
- Fear of Flying Courses: Some organizations offer courses designed to help individuals overcome their fear of flying. These often combine classroom sessions with actual flying experiences.
- Relaxation Techniques: Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, and progressive muscle relaxation can be effective in managing anxiety.
Communication:
Engage in open dialogue with your spouse:
- Express Your Fears: Share your feelings and concerns with your husband. Knowing your fears will allow him to provide reassurance, information, or even additional training he’s received.
- Shared Experience: Consider taking a flight training lesson together. Having a professional instructor present might provide an added sense of safety.
- In-Flight Communication: If you decide to fly, continuous communication with your spouse during the flight can be reassuring. Ask him to explain what he’s doing, the sounds you’re hearing, and what to expect next.
Preparation and Control:
Participate in the pre-flight checklist
Having a sense of control can alleviate anxiety:
- Pre-flight Checklist: Be involved in the pre-flight checklist with your spouse. Understanding the thoroughness of the checks can be reassuring.
- Weather Check: Choose a day with clear, calm weather for one of your first flights. Avoiding turbulence can make the experience more comfortable.
- Escape Plan: Discuss and understand the plan in the unlikely event of an emergency. Knowing there’s a plan can provide comfort.
Stay Physically Comfortable:
Physical discomfort can exacerbate feelings of anxiety:
- Dress Comfortably: Wear loose-fitting clothes and avoid heavy meals before flying.
- Stay Hydrated: Drink water and avoid caffeine, which can increase anxiety.
- Ear Protection: Light aircraft can be noisy. Wearing ear protection or noise-canceling headphones can make the flight more pleasant.
Medications:
While it’s generally recommended to avoid sedatives (as they can impair your ability to respond in an emergency), discuss with a doctor if you believe medication might be beneficial for the initial flights. However, long-term reliance on medication isn’t ideal, as it doesn’t address the root of the fear.
Conclusion:
Overcome the fear of flying and enjoy!
Fear of flying in light aircraft is valid, but remember, flying is a passion for many, and they find great joy in the experience.
With understanding, gradual exposure, professional assistance, and support, it’s possible to overcome or at least manage this fear. Whether or not you choose to embrace flying as a regular activity, taking steps to confront your anxiety will undoubtedly be empowering.
Lastly, celebrate small victories. Each step you take, no matter how minor, is progress. The skies are a vast and beautiful frontier, and even if you decide that flying isn’t for you, understanding and appreciating why your spouse loves it can be a bonding experience.
I went from feelings of dread just thinking about flying, to now actually loving each flight. I feel calm and relaxed, and it’s a great bonding experience.
Wishing you clarity, courage, and calm skies ahead.
